Going to a swingers party for the first time can be nerve-wracking. There are certain things that are known in the swinging community, but if you haven’t been part of it, you may not realize what all of the unwritten rules are. Here’s a simple guide to the expected etiquette.

RSVP - Swingers parties can be difficult to set up. In most cases only about 1/4 of the people invited are able to attend. With a swingers party, this can be frustrating. Be sure to let the guests know what your intentions are before you show up. This allows the host to plan accordingly.

Parking - Find out about appropriate parking before you go out. Many people don’t want their neighbors to know about a large party, and others may live in a neighborhood with little to no street parking. Most hosts will consider this and plan for parking.

Go Clean - This should go without saying. Take time to shower, shave, clip nails, and just follow overall good hygiene before you go. If you don’t, it will likely be the last party you are invited to.

Bring Your Own Items - While most hosts will provide towels and toiletries, it’s always a good idea to bring your own just in case. A small overnight bag stocked with robes, towels, soap, and other items is a good thing to have.

Drinking And Drugs - Not only are drugs illegal, they can affect your performance. A swingers party will be no fun if you are too inebriated to perform. Many parties will have alcohol to loosen the mood, but know beforehand what you can handle and don’t go over that threshold.